I pretty much always make new year’s resolutions… I’m not quite as gung-ho about it as Lacey is (see this entry), but I do try to make one per year. I used to make these huge elaborate lists and have lots of high hopes and convince myself that this would be the year that I would myself where I wanted to be. That never worked.
So finally, a few years ago, I came up with this completely novel idea…baby steps. Original, I know. I decided that if I gave myself one manageable resolution, I could handle it. And I knew that once it was tackled, I’d have a sense of accomplishment instead of feeling like a complete failure the way I had all of the other years.
So one year I decided that I’d start keeping up with my checking account better so that I would no longer bounce checks. I figured that was a pretty doable resolution. And I tackled that one – I havent had a problem with it since. Nate handles that stuff now, so I don’t have to worry about it anymore…which is a relief!
Another year I decided that, in order to keep myself from buying things I didnt need and probably would never wear, I would make a new shopping rule: If I look in the mirror and hesitate, put it back. Basically, unless I try something on and I absolutely LOVE it immediately, have a place to wear it, can match it to an outfit in my closet, and it fits perfectly, I won’t purchase it… no more "this will fit perfectly when I lose 5 lbs," or "surely I can find something to wear this to," or "I can probably scrounge something up to wear this with" or "I cant decide if I like it….well, I guess I do…" Once I put it on, if the immediate response is not "I LOVE this!" and it doesn’t practically fit into both my life and my closet, I put it back. That’s the rule. Period. (along with the rule of don’t go window shopping if you can’t afford it!) That might seem simple, but it has helped me alot. I have made lots of purchases in the past that I convinced myself in the dressing room that I liked. If you have to convince yourself, it’s not worth it.
This past year, I made my biggest resolution yet. I was having lots of muscle and joint pain (I’ve dealt with it since I was about 15), and I’ve tried everything — neurologists, acupuncturists, chiropractors, message therapists, specialisted phyiscal therapists….everything. Nobody could fix it. Then in December of last year, I heard about a diet for fibromyalgia, which I’m not sure if I have, but alot of the symptoms are the same. I heard that the diet is supposed to lessen muscle and joint pain, so I thought I’d try it. I read a couple of books on it, which said that the first week or two would be really bad and would generally make you feel worse…but after you got over that little bump in the road, you’d feel better than ever. I figured that feeling like crap over the holidays wasn’t a good plan since we’d be out of town, plus I’d have to plan my meals really carefully, which is hard when you’re traveling. So I set Jan 1st as the date, since that was going to be our first day back in town. I jumped into this diet head-first, despite the fact that Nate kept telling me that there was no way I could stick to it since it was so strict. Well, it is December 21 and I’m still on it. The first 2 weeks definitely sucked, but after that it got SOOO much better. This year has definitely been the best as far as muscle pain is concerned. The bad flair-ups still happen, but they are few and far between, plus the daily aching has diminished significantly. Oh yeah, and I lost 30 lbs without working out. Nice little side-effect, huh?
This year, I’m changing it up a little bit. I’ve done several years of baby step number 1, so I think I’ll kick it up a notch and take Lacey’s advice. I like her idea of choosing 1 resolution for each category: mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual.
So that’s what I’m working on right now. I’ve got a couple of them down, but I’m still deciding on the last few. I’m only choosing 1 resolution for each, because of course I don’t want to go overboard and completely overwhelm myself. After all, going from 1 resolution per year to 4 is a big step.
I’ll let you know when I get there. Any suggestions?